"What's Next?"


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President Bartlet: When I ask 'What's Next?' it means I'm ready to move on to other things. So, what's next?
-The West Wing

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    if comparison is the thief of joy
    then when you spend hours
    falling down your rabbit’s hole of
    all the what ifs and joys
    of another’s world
    you need only to


    open your own page
    hold your own book to the mirror
    and see you have pages of pages
    sunkissed and rainbow-filled
    of rabbit-hole-worthy moments

    so find a thief’s joy
    in comparing your momentary bleakness
    in the happiness of your reality
    the joy of your being itself
    for we are all made of star stuff
    and that is beauty enough for us all

    We’re still calling that a thing right? Because my life feels like it’s in shambles right now for no reason at all (really, everything is good) and I need a scapegoat.

    Asker Anonymous Asks:
    My friend Shannon bugs my friend Tiffany a lot about this guy that she thinks likes Tiffany because she thinks that he is "weird", but he's actually a cool guy and we've both told Shannon that they're just friends. But I recently found out that this guy is going to ask Tiffany to homecoming. What can I say to Shannon after Tiffany gets asked to HC to keep her from freaking out and being annoying about everything?
    christinasayswhatsnext christinasayswhatsnext Said:


    Basically just tell her Tiffany can do what she wants and it’s not her business who Tiffany goes to Homecoming with, just be chill with dude and Tiffany going to homecoming together if Tiffany says yes. If she’s still being harassing, call her out. It’s none of Shannon’s business.

    Kylie just did what all middle/high school teachers do, and with sass and class: dissolve drama.

    #longhairdontcare, think of getting it cut soon though.

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    Hey there, 27. Didn’t see you sneak up on my like that. That’s okay. Things have been really crazy for me, so I haven’t had as much time to prep for your arrival.

    I think that’s okay, though. Last year, I promised myself I would be more joyful (yes, I reflect on each year, set goals, and then reflect on those goals. Because TFA is a cult of ideas that I still have not broken out of. Here’s 26¸ 25 part 1, 25 part 2 and 24).

    I think, I hope, I moved in that direction. A large part of that promise to 26 was fulfilled when I decided to leave my job at TFA. Coming back to the classroom fills me with such joy each day— even days when I’m tired and over it— and has allowed me to refocus on what I want. I mean, it’s October, admittedly one of the worst times to be a teacher, and while the struggle is so real, my kids continue to crack me up and and baffle me with their hilarity, smarts, and wit.

    Last year, I wrote that midnight came on my birthday surrounded by my family and wonderful boyfriend. This year, midnight came and went and I was sound asleep, a belly full of a delicious dinner and the sound of laundry that boyfriend was doing burbling in the background. Comfort, happiness, stability. Joy. 

    I’ve lived most of my life at a whiplash pace. I’ve always been focused on what needs to be better. What can improve? What didn’t work? I have spent midnights with boys wondering how I could make things better, spending nights drinking too much, partying in places I didn’t want to be in because it seemed like what someone my age should do.

    I don’t regret that. I don’t dislike that. I have had some amazing nights start because someone encouraged me to push myself out of my comfort zone. I think that was a good way to live in the past, and that sense of urgency is what has gotten me further along in my life than I might have gone without it. There are experiences I may not have had and regretted later.

    On the eve of my birthday, though, I had an interesting thought. I was at dinner, and my sweet guy reminded the restaurant that it was my birthday and had told them (look, we like free stuff, we like dessert, I ain’t ashamed). What would I get? Cake? Green tea ice cream? BOTH?!

    Out came a scoop of vanilla with a small candle. The server lit the candle, said “Happy Birthday!” and left. 

    Now, I don’t take my birthday particularly seriously, and lots of people singing to me freaks me out, so I didn’t mind. I do love dessert though, and while I like vanilla fan, it’s not necessarily my favorite. 

    Still, I smiled, blew out my candle, and took a small bite.

    “Mmm,” I surprisedly murmured as the vanilla hit my tongue. Creamy. Not too sweet, and the earthy sense of it being vanilla bean, “this is GOOD vanilla.”

    Much like the rest of my life, I am one of those girls who wants 30 million different flavors in my ice cream. Rocky Road. Oreo Peanut Butter Cup (it’s a thing at Baskin Robbins and it’s pretty great). For years, I’ve been overlooking the delight that is just a really good scoop of vanilla ice cream.

    So. 27. A few days late, because I’ve been living my life so much more internally than externally and on social media. This year, I want to just enjoy the fruits of my labor. 27 is the year I want to love things as they are, as much as I can. I am finally in a place I love, at a job I love, surrounded by so much people-love. I by no means want to put down my social-justice-sword or seek out things I really want, however I think that a year to also remember how much good I am encompassed by and how really blessed I am. I also know it could all go to hell and a hand basket tomorrow. I can’t control what happens next, but I hope I can at least enjoy it as much as I can.

    So, to 27: here’s hoping I remember that, even at its most simple, my life is still a really good scoop of vanilla. Lots of times, though, I’ll probably throw on some rainbow sprinkles too.





    In Case You Missed It:

    The theme of last night’s dancing with the stars was reliving the memorable years. And that meant Alfonso Ribeiro reintroduced us to his famous dance — The Carlton — from the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.

    Watch the full dance here.

    what a time to be alive


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    Water seems especially blue, Diamond Head especially clear this afternoon.

    Feeling so blessed to start year 27 here, so grateful to have so much crazy love and joy in my life, and so overwhelmed with all the well-wishing today! Thanks :) (at Magic Island Beach Park)



    With all the heat Anita Sarkeesian gets for her Tropes series, you’d think it was a new topic, but Gene Siskel & Roger Ebert had a discussion on a similar theme when they were talking about the influx of slasher movies on their show in 1980.


    I can’t believe this post made it to my dash with this valuable commentary deleted. This is the entire reason that this show came up in the first place. Here’s the Polygon article that broached the subject. It’s incredibly relevant to entertainment media of all kinds today.

    Part 1 was already linked by the OP, but here’s part 2 of the show for convenience. (x)

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    This perfectly summarizes why I love the Simpsons and hate Family Guy. 


    So this.

    I watched that episode with my family and I could just feel how uncomfortable everyone was. Honestly, it was a really jarring, unpleasant episode.

    Homer is a terrible dad. So is Peter. But Homer’s saving grace has always been that he tries—he’s bad at it and he fucks it up a lot, but he loves his family and he wants to be better than he is.

    One of my favorite Homer moments is in “Diatribe of a Mad Housewife.” Tl;dr Marge writes a steamy romance novel starring herself and Ned, and when Homer finds out, he chases down Ned and, rather than attack him, asks him to teach him how to be a better husband.

    There’s some part of his stupid self that wants to do better.

    I never got that impression with Peter. Instead, the family has gotten more and more abusive towards Meg. It’s really unsettling for me when I started realizing that’s what happens sometimes in abusive families. Abusers sometimes single out one child to abuse, and quite often the other family members take the abuser’s side. After all, it’s easier to side with an abuser than to run the risk of becoming the target yourself.

    There’s never really a point where it seems like Peter cares at all that his shitty behavior impacts his family. It actually seems to have gotten worse over the years. He expects everyone to clean up his messes because that’s always what happens; there’s really no reason for him not to be shitty.

    And it’s easy to see how Meg is affected. She doesn’t have much of a character, really, because so much her screen time is devoted to being abused. The bits of character development all seem to hinge on her being this sad, neglected person who’s trying her best but never really gets any help from anyone. Quite the opposite; there have been a lot of episodes where her family sabotages any attempts to be herself.

    It can be easy to forget how awful this behavior is when the only context is the show itself (frankly, everyone on Family Guy is kind of terrible). Seeing it played against the Simpsons, who are a flawed and dysfunctional but ultimately loving family, was painful to watch.

    also let’s remember that the simpsons crew and showrunners really hate family guy so this episode was definitely something being pushed by the studio

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    Baby goats aka kids are for everyone.

    I don’t follow babygoatsandfriends because people I follow keep on reblogging them.

    That is not a good reason.

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    MacArthur Genius Grant Winners (You Should KNOW)

    Alison Bechdel

    (following from MacFound.org)

    Alison Bechdel is a cartoonist and graphic memoirist exploring the complexities of familial relationships in multilayered works that use the interplay of word and image to weave sophisticated narratives. Bechdel’s command of sequential narrative and her aesthetic as a visual artist was established in her long-running comic strip, Dykes to Watch Out For (1983–2008), which realistically captured the lives of women in the lesbian community as they influenced and were influenced by the important cultural and political events of the day.

    Garnering a devoted and diverse following, this pioneering work was a precursor to her book-length graphic memoirs. Fun Home: A Family Tragicomic (2006) is a nuanced depiction of a childhood spent in an artistic family in a small Pennsylvania town and of her relationship with her father, a high school English teacher and funeral home director. An impeccable observer and record keeper, Bechdel incorporates drawings of archival materials, such as diaries, letters, photographs, and news clippings, as well as a variety of literary references in deep reflections into her own past.

    Bechdel composes an intricate, recursive narrative structure that is compelling on both the visual and verbal planes in Are You My Mother? A Comic Drama (2012), a meditation on her relationship with her emotionally distant mother seen through the lens of psychoanalytic theory. As in Fun Home, the images in Are You My Mother? do not always correspond to or illustrate the words; rather, they mutually interpret or often tug against each other, creating a space between them that invites a multiplicity of interpretations. With storytelling that is striking for its conceptual depth and complexity in structure as well as for the deft use of allusion and reference, Bechdel is changing our notions of the contemporary memoir and expanding the expressive potential of the graphic form.

    Alison Bechdel received a B.A. (1981) from Oberlin College. She is the editor of Best American Comics (2011), and her comic strip work has been collected in numerous volumes, most recently The Essential Dykes to Watch Out For (2008). Her work has also appeared in such publications as Slate, the New York Times Book ReviewMcSweeney’sGranta, and The New Yorker.

    Additional KNOWhomo Posts on Bechdel:

    Alison Bechdel

    Dykes To Watch Out For

    Fun Home (Graphic Novel)

    Fun Home (Broadway)

    Fun Home “Changing My Major” (Song from Fun Home)


    Obviously not slam but Alison Bechdel is an amazing writer/cartoonist and we’re thrilled she received a MacArthur Genius grant!







    Shit happened to Ferguson is happening in Hong Kong right now!

    Students were just protesting peacefully for genuine democracy around Admiralty and Central, yet the police forced used pepper spray, tear gas and violence to disperse the crowd. According to the protesters, the police even raided a first aid booth with pepper spray.

    Sign the White House Petition

    Join Overseas Events

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    Justin Lynch beating Michael Phelps record at just 16



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